A Breath of Fresh Air

I reached out and did something especially bold last week and it paid off!  I've got several posts here in my Blog in which I lament the loss of a connection that I had with somebody in the past.  I knew this person on a casual basis for a few years at work, but always wished that we could have been closer friends.  Unfortunately,  they moved away last year and this never happened.  I've thought about them often since they left and hoped that we could connect again.

Well one night last week after a couple of glasses of wine, I decided to take the plunge and send a message to ask if they wanted to be in touch online. Once I did this, I decided that I was just going to let things ride and see what happened . . . without stressing about it.  In retrospect, I've observed that this is quite a departure from how I've done things in the past.  I didn't realize how much I've changed over the last year, but I'm happy about it!  I'm finally starting to overcome being hurt in the past and learn how to reach out to people again.

So, I went about my business and the next day I received a very nice reply to my message!  This person messaged me back to say that they're interested in staying in touch!  This means so much to me that it feels like a breath of fresh air has come back into my life . . . and a much needed one at that!   I can compare the feeling that I have to the first days of Spring, when little buds appear on the trees and everything is starting to come back alive after a long and cold Winter.

During the time that they were here, I actually looked forward to getting up in the morning and going to work, just so I could see and talk with them.  Although I've always been intrinsically motivated to look and perform my best, I made a special effort to do even more whenever they were around.  They gave me a reason to surpass my goals.  Some people out there might think that this is dorky, but I don't care!  It takes a very special person to motivate me in this manner, and I've met very few like them!

This person asked me about some of the friendships that I have online and how they came to be. What I couldn't quite tell them at the time is that all of this happened due to a quest for knowledge to learn more about them.  I hope that I can tell them this one day.

So, I don't know what will end up happening out of all of this.  Hopefully we will develop a good and lasting connection.  But as with most things, only time will tell . . .

October 17, 2012 Update

Well, we've messaged back and forth a few times, but they've been out of touch for about a week now.  I hope that this doesn't continue.  What's a link without comms?